I normally don’t share things of this nature but I feel there are some
lessons to be learned here.
Garry had been in my life since I was 11. He wasn’t always the nicest guy but he certainly helped to shape me into the man that I am today.
Over the years we had some good times and bad. Thankfully I took a step back in 2010 and reconnected with my family which included some bonding time with him.
We had our differences over the years and I never let him forget that,
but I also made sure he knew what an impact he had on my life.
The last time I saw him in person was April 19th, 2012. We had dinner
with my Mom. I got to share with him all the great things that were
(are) happening in my life.
I missed calling him on fathers day, but I just happened to be in San
Clemente, CA that day and was certainly thinking of him. He had been a
frequent visitor there for over 20 years.
The last time I spoke with him was June 24th, 2012. We played phone
tag a little that day but finally connected.
He was full of life and happy to hear from me. But more than that he
had his freedom and a good outlook. He lived by himself and managed
his life however he saw fit. I learned that he had met some new
friends and he was excited to get some projects done around his home.
I had a smile on my face the entire 24 minute (yes I just looked that
up) phone call. Garry was enjoying the zest that life has to offer.
His passing was quick and if there was any suffering it was minimal.
He had spent the last few months reminding me and others that he cared
about us, and letting folks know how to handle his affairs if
something should happen. He knew … and I heard him loud and clear.
Life is not forever, and it has no guarantees. You have heard this all
before I am certain. You just don’t really listen to (hear it) until
it hits close to home.
If I were to pass tomorrow I have no regrets. I have lived, YES I have
fucking lived! Further I love my life exactly how it currently is.
Death shouldn’t bring sorrow, it should bring the realization that you
should pay hommage to what you are and what you really have (certainly
Take it all in, and live fully,